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  1. Nashra Usmani

    I agree, it was interesting to read! Perhaps not life changing as some say, but not bad either. Need to watch the Netflix series someday 🙂

  2. I’m coming from a place similar to Hannah Baker, and yes it is true. There are times when you can’t get help, because you don’t even think about getting it. In my case, I was also suicidal and turned to alcohol to numb the pain.
    The only difference was I had people who cared enough to stick through my darkest times. My adoptive parents were there to help me even if I didn’t want help. I also had God who sent angels during the most desperate moments.
    I remembered the time when I would sit inside the church, just crying my heart out and strangers would approach me. It might sound cliche, but they said the right things. Just enough for me to realize that there are people who want the best for me.
    I took so long to realize this. I had a victim mindset and felt like I couldn’t do anything about my situation. It was like I had no choice but to accept the cards dealt to me. But when I started hanging out with the right people, I learned that I had a choice on how to react to the situation. So I started thinking like a survivor and now I am stronger because of it.
    Killing yourself is never the answer, however tempting it is. I just wish kids would be more open to talking to their parents and parents would be more interested in hearing what their kids want to say.
    While it was uncomfortable to read the book, I felt relief knowing I wasn’t alone in this. I just wish people had an open mind about it, and not block it as something so negative. The book presents itself as a conversation piece, making it easier for all of us to talk about how we really feel. It shouldn’t be shelved just because it discusses someone’s choice of death. It should be something that we use to celebrate life with all its pitfalls and triumphs.
    If you’re going through some hard times, don’t get tired of reaching out. Everything on earth is temporary. You just have to hang on. Brighter days will come. That’s a promise.

    • Nashra Usmani

      That’s exactly the point I was trying to make, you aren’t helpless. There are ways to get help, whether it be friends or family or a professional therapist. Having talked to certain people I value a lot about it, I strongly agree with you that suicide is never the answer. You might think you’re worth nothing but I can bet someone out there gives that little damn about you, even if it’s just a stranger, like I’m your church. We need more of these kind people in the world, I’m so glad you found your support and pulled through.

  3. I suffered from suicidal thoughts and I got help. Now I feel better. I do not want to die anymore. Yes help is available. Yes we can be helped 🙂

    • Nashra Usmani

      Yes, exactly, you are not helpless if you are depressed. I sincerely hope you’re doing infinitely better now and continue to do so.

  4. I haven’t rad or watched this, but from what I’ve heard, I agree with your points. From what I’ve seen discussed, this should’ve discussed the mental health aspect more, as well as shown more reasons for living than for dying.

    • Nashra Usmani

      Well yes, they should’ve at least shown that help is possible. I think the author failed to deliver that particular message but it’s the most important one for a depressed person reading this. It’s not a bad book tho, quite interesting, give it a quick read!

  5. Hi, so I started reading the book but I didn’t get through with it. Still though, I’ve heard a lot about it from others (including my sis who absolutely loves it). My issue with the series is a but similar to yours. Of course it was a great book and very well written according to me, but I feel for people who struggle with suicidal thoughts, it is a trigger and may appear that a person may suicide and leave a legacy by it. I’d rather, it had shown that you can survive whatever situation you go through,

    • Nashra Usmani

      Exactly. If suicide is the only thing that ensures up getting you positive attention at the end… Thats a bit unnerving, to say the least.

    • Nashra Usmani

      Maybe it just isn’t your type of book, I think it’s majorly appealing to teenagers only.

  6. Madhavi Kale Bodke

    Your blog is interesting.. I think I am going to visit your blog very often.. I like your clarity of thoughts..

  7. I agree, parts of the book, as you have put, don’t seem to make sense. If you compare that to the real world, the outcomes would be different. It’s been really long since I read any such book. I will like to check it out when I get time.

    • Nashra Usmani

      Yeah exactly. YA books aren’t all bad though, I’ve heard good things of writers like Rainbow Rowell although I myself haven’t read any of his stuff. Perhaps check him out!

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